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Desire Isn’t Fluid: Erectile Disappointment and Fertility

A remarkable number of men contact me every year describing uncooperative erections during their partners' windows of fertility.

Sep 9, 2021

Desire Isn’t Fluid: Erectile Disappointment and Fertility

Sep 9, 2021

How self-betrayal is taught in childhood

I’ll begin with the punchline. It is not unusual that someone who has experienced a sexual assault has seemingly misplaced anger at their…

Jun 2, 2021

How self-betrayal is taught in childhood

Jun 2, 2021

The 3 common erotic fantasies mentioned in therapy since covid

You’ve endured being an adult with an 8 o’clock curfew. Concerts and festivals aren’t happening, again. We are cooped up, strung out, and…

May 21, 2021

The 3 common erotic fantasies mentioned in therapy since covid

May 21, 2021

Is BabyTalk to Blame for your (almost) Sexless Marriage?

“He sounds like he’s angry with me and his face looks like he is about to tell me he is annoyed with something!”

May 18, 2021

Is BabyTalk to Blame for your (almost) Sexless Marriage?

May 18, 2021

The Perfect Storm: Sexual chemistry explained as erotic dynamic

She’d been sitting with her half finished latte for over 15 minutes, waiting for her man. Busy at work as usual, he was on his way from…

Jul 26, 2019

The Perfect Storm: Sexual chemistry explained as erotic dynamic

Jul 26, 2019

Just Kissing: The Practice of Erotic Oral Communication

How often have you felt delighted by a style of kiss that matched exactly what you wanted? Leaving for work in the morning, you have many…

Jul 13, 2019

Just Kissing: The Practice of Erotic Oral Communication

Jul 13, 2019

It is easier to orgasm alone: 8 tips for partnered play

I will never forget the time a man asked me, with a tone of playful curiosity in his voice, “Why?”

Mar 18, 2019

It is easier to orgasm alone: 8 tips for partnered play

Mar 18, 2019

Don’t Work Too Hard: A Trauma-Informed & Queer-Friendly Holiday Survival Guide

Every year, I work with clients who invest the time, money, and boatload of emotional energy it takes to prepare to see their families…

Dec 23, 2018

Don’t Work Too Hard: A Trauma-Informed & Queer-Friendly Holiday Survival Guide

Dec 23, 2018

Sex Toys: An Article for Men

The Power Tool You’re Missing in your Toolbox

Oct 13, 2018

Sex Toys: An Article for Men

Oct 13, 2018

Porn is a Snack: Here is Why You’re Still Hungry

Masturbating to porn when you don’t feel turned on at the start feels like snacking when you’re not hungry; you could keep going, but…

Sep 26, 2018

Porn is a Snack: Here is Why You’re Still Hungry

Sep 26, 2018

I am Carrot Cake: A Lesson in Erotic Empathy

Six and a half months after their son was born—though their sex life together had resumed—their erotic connection was not the same. Despite…

Sep 17, 2018

I am Carrot Cake: A Lesson in Erotic Empathy

Sep 17, 2018

You Can Work with a Small Penis – You Can’t Work with a Big Ego

“If she isn’t satisfied with me, well then I guess she needs a different man.”

Aug 13, 2018

You Can Work with a Small Penis – You Can’t Work with a Big Ego

Aug 13, 2018

The Vulnerability Hangover: A Fresh Take on Modern Eroticism

A sex therapist explores the 'vulnerability hangover', a new sexual phenomenon.

May 30, 2018

May 30, 2018

Not all those who cry are sad

Crying remains the universal symbol for sadness. But, do people universally feel sad when they cry? Are those who identify with sadness…

Mar 30, 2018

Not all those who cry are sad

Mar 30, 2018

Your readers are not fragile: a trigger warning

Converse sneakers. Not violent images, blatant sexism, or even a handsy stranger in a crowd. Converse sneakers. That is what one of my…

Mar 30, 2018

Your readers are not fragile: a trigger warning

Mar 30, 2018

Why seek therapy from a therapist versed in sexuality?

Most of the couples I see do truly love each other. In fact, most often their frustration, resentment, and rejection come from their…

Sep 7, 2017

Why seek therapy from a therapist versed in sexuality?

Sep 7, 2017

Amanda Luterman

Amanda Luterman

Ivy league trained, Licensed Psychotherapist, MA, MEd. Being in love doesn't mean you're aroused. The blunt musings of a clinician.

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